You have decided that you want to get some psychotherapy, or counselling, and now you need to figure out whom to see.
This is a very important question.
This is the person you will reveal your issues to, who will see your vulnerability, and who you will trust to help you. Intimacy is part of this relationship, and you need to find the right person.
Some people choose their therapist based on their modality (i.e. psychodynamic, CBT, etc.), but the relationship between two human beings is significant.
*Research has shown that the relationship between therapist and client is the key factor in the client’s resolution of their issues. That is why finding the right therapist is an important decision.
How to choose:
Some therapists get referrals because of their success with clients, who then go on to recommend them to others. If someone recommends their therapist to you, ask them “why do you think this therapist will be good for me?” This is a valid question.
You may ask someone you know about a referral to their therapist because you have seen the changes in this person, and you sense that this is what you want for yourself. Talk to them and ask them about the changes they made, and how their therapist helped them.
Most psychotherapists have websites and provide information about themselves, the services they offer and how they work. Look for these signs:
- When you read their writing, do you get a sense that this person is right for you?
- What do you like about their website, or does something put you off?
I am not stating that you can glean everything about the therapist from their writing, but you do get a sense of who they are and what they are offering.
Talk to them:
Some therapists offer a free phone call, or an initial session. Let them know about the issues you want to work on. After the conversation, see how you feel inside. Do you feel like you were listened to, and heard? Only you will know who is right for you.
Have a session:
Going for an initial consultation, and meeting the therapist face-to-face, will be the best indicator for you. Do you feel a connection with them? Did they hear you? Did you feel understood? These are just a few questions to ask yourself before you make your decision.
If the answer is NO, then start again. As I wrote earlier, this is an important relationship and one you need to get right. If you constantly find yourself saying no, then there may be an internal issue going on, but most of us can find the right therapist by following these few steps.
And remember, it may take a few sessions to get to know the person you are working with. Talk to them if you feel unsure about the therapeutic relationship.
Good luck on your journey!
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